“Fate chooses your relations, you choose your friends.”
– Jacques Delille (1738 – 1813) French poet.
Who are the friends you hold dear? Are they old friends? New friends? What do you like about your friends? How do they inspire you, make you laugh, love you and support you? How do you show them you care about them?
It’s interesting to think about. I want to share a few stories with you that made me grateful for my own friends.
Last weekend one of my best friends, and her family, drove across the state to come visit us for the day. What a surprise that they were coming! Everyone was excited. Her two girls are the same age as my two oldest girls, and they have grown up together. Although they moved a few years ago, and we don’t see them as often anymore, we all picked up just as if no time had passed at all. Dee and I spent the day talking, watching the kids swim and catching up on life. It reminded me of all the times we had spent together years ago when our girls were just toddlers. She was there for me when Molly (now 7) wouldn’t take a bottle, and drove over to my house 3 times in a day to feed it to her! I was there for her to watch Grace the morning Sarah (now 6) was born. It’s wonderful to have a friendship where you can support someone and feel supported. Love and be loved.
Then last night three other girlfriends came over for dinner. One had moved about a year ago but was back in FL visiting, so we worked it out, on a busy school night, to all get together. It was great to laugh over funny book club memories, recall some of our greatest dinner menus and see the pictures of her new baby. At the end of the evening I felt happy and rejuvenated and reconnected.
But old friends aren’t the end of it. Recently, I have been blessed with some new friends too. Since going through the life coaching classes I’ve met some people who challenge me to be better, but accept me where I am now. Friends who share the same vision for changing themselves, and the world around them. Friends who are courageous and willing to expose their inner world so they can be free of it. Friends who are willing to help others to do the same.
As the saying goes, to have a friend, be a friend. You chose your friends for a reason. Maybe, like me, they inspire you, make you laugh, support you in tough times, love you unconditionally. If so, count yourself blessed. If you want to meet new friends, be willing to try something new. Sign yourself up for a class, attend a lecture, join a local service club. Pick something you like to do and sure enough you will meet others there who like the same thing. People are all around looking for a good friend. Be that friend, and you will reap the rewards too.
Whether old or new: Treasure your friends. Make time for them. Support them. Invest in them. Love them. You chose them.
“Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods.”
- Why Friendship Matters More Than Ever As We Age (lifescript.com)