Everyone enjoys a fitting reply;
it is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time!
I’ll admit that I am a communication whore. I love texting and phone calls and Facebook messaging. I have friends all over the country and the world. If you know me you’ve probably laughed with me and I probably know quite a bit about you because I tend to ask a lot of questions. You also know I respond quickly and I get annoyed if you don’t! 🙂
When I scroll through FB my only goal is to see who I can encourage. I love to plant seeds of kindness into the hearts of those who are struggling and I genuinely enjoy celebrating with those who are succeeding.
Well I can appreciate that not everyone is this way. Which is why this comment came at the perfect time yesterday.
After posting a link to yesterday’s blog Courage to Walk I received this comment in response to my admission of my own insecurity in even writing these blogs. I said, “Why would anyone listen to me? When I have as messy a past as anyone!”
And this is what Janett replied. Can you believe this? I had to read it again. I went back later and read it a third time. I told Jim about it when we were walking our dog Stella. I messaged Janett to ask her permission to use it in today’s blog and she said, YES!
From the outside, it may look like someone has it all together. You might assume that they don’t need encouragement. Don’t be deceived. The truth is, most people would love to hear a kind word from you. Including me. And I’m sure including you too.
The hardest time I’ve found to spread God’s kindness and love is when I need to go the extra mile and reach out to someone when I’ve hurt them. Maybe you have found that too? You have your reasons why you don’t want to apologize.
But what if you did? What if you were willing to crack open the door of communication with a simple text or a phone call and said, “I’m so sorry. Can you tell me what I did that caused you pain?” And then just listen. Empathize. Absorb their pain and be willing to make amends.
They may be waiting to hear from you. They probably are. Or you could simply sit back and wait to see what will happen over time. Will they just get over it and come back? Or will the friendship end? You have to decide what you want. Are they worth having in your life? If so be willing to go the extra mile.
Words are a very powerful thing. It even says in Proverbs 18 that death and life are in the power of the tongue. Today make a decision to use your words wisely. Use them to build and not break. Use them to love and not lash out. Use them to encourage and not exclude.
Take some time every day to spread kindness with your words. It costs nothing but means everything. Thank you Janett for taking your time to make my day. You are a very special lady and I am so glad to know you and call you friend.