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Having Courageous Honesty

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So be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid and do not panic before them. For the Lord your God will personally go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor abandon you.
Deuteronomy 31:6

Writing has been a challenge for me lately. I am a teacher at heart. I love sharing with you what I know, what I’ve read and clearly understand. And writing from that perspective is easy. It’s not risky or vulnerable. It’s just informational.

But sharing myself with you, that is entirely different. Digging through the inner landscapes of my heart and trying, as best I can, to verbalize what is in there…yeah, that’s scary. To me. And it IS risky. Being vulnerable always is.

I think most of us are scared of what lies inside of us. So we distract ourselves with the busy-ness of life. We have jobs and children. We have responsibilities and to-do lists. Who has time for emotional growth? Who even thinks about it really?

Me. And you. You’re here aren’t you?

This is a call to you today to have courage.

Most of us have past hurts we’ve swept under the rug. We remember times in our lives when God didn’t answer our prayers and we doubted He cared. We have failed in relationships and as parents. We have lost jobs and quit on our dreams. We got addicted or tried to escape the pain in other ways.

And…time heals…nothing.

Time only heals if we choose to DO something to heal ourselves. We have to decide to face our inner landscape with courageous honesty and dig through what’s really inside. And when we do, will we like what we see? Will we have to have some tough conversations? Will we have to change something or forgive someone or let something go?

Those are tough questions and the answers are often what prevent us from really taking a look.

The real question here is why go through the pain of this archaeology when “I’m just fine. See I’m happy.” That too can be a defense mechanism. I know because I often hide behind a smile. No one will suspect you’re not okay if you’re smiling, right?

Life has so much richness to offer and if your emotional valve is shut off because the pain of years past has been ignored, I can almost guarantee the emotional highs of life are dulled and so are the lows. And that is when life becomes very boring and distant.

Courageous honesty is the willingness to do the work to heal the past. It is facing honestly the fears of seeing yourself as you really are, as God made you to be, and expressing that true self to the world.

Even when rejection is a possibility. Even when you feel it’s harder rather than easier. Even when feeling your life is scary and you want to put your head back in the shell.

Don’t. Do. It.

Have the Courage to Be Yourself.

This is a lesson I have been learning again. And again. And again.

Because this is of utmost importance I decided to put together a class for women based on a book that changed my life almost 10 years ago. I encourage you to join us. It begins tonight at 9pm EST. CLICK HERE for details and your last chance to register.

P.S. Healing can take place in many ways individually through reading books, journaling and prayer. However, I also highly recommend working with a professional or joining a support group. Especially if you don’t want to. Do what you think would never work. Crazy? Maybe. But it works! Have courage. You are loved.